I hate my mother is a phrase that I hear waaaay to often.
Another one is, ‘my mother is so negative I can’t talk to her!”
Imagine the negative energy that you carry in your body when you” hate”, “can’t stand”, “don’t like” your Original Source. Imagine the strength that is being robbed from you on a daily basis when your thoughts stray to your mother.
Maybe it’s not your mother that you hate, maybe it’s someone else.
Maybe it’s not an extreme emotion like hate maybe it’s a STRONG dislike that keeps you angry at the person even when you are NOT in their presence. It is a, literal, drain on your energy.
You know how this feels, even hours after your conversation; you feel distracted, impatient; you lack enthusiasm and become pessimistic. It causes tightness and pain in your…chest? Stomach? Butt? In some cases, you’ve given away so much of your energy that you become fatigued and have to lie down.
How long does it take before you calm down; hours, days?
I don’t hate my mother but I have leaked YEARS of my life being angry at my husband. He just wasn’t doing what I wanted; needed, expected, assumed husbands are supposed to do. Because we’re not a yelling, cursing, angry family I calmly expressed my needs, wants, expectations for years and yet he didn’t change his behavior. I cried and pleaded for years and received minimal response (change is difficult).
And when I was diagnosed with cancer in 2000 what I knew to be true became true in my life; pent-up, negative, emotional energy will materialize as a disease in your physical body.
What medical issues are you dealing with?
Boy I started yelling, cursing and demanding to be heard after that! No, just kidding.
Even though I changed my eating and took on some new spiritual practices, like meditation and visualization, I didn’t change how I interacted with him. At that point we had both learned to dance our dance (change is difficult). He continued to be The Emotionally Aloof husband and I was the Martyr Wife & Mother.
What role do you play in your relationship?
I had to change my role in the dance even though the music, the ballroom and my partner remained the same.
Are you waiting for that person to change?
Strong emotions, both negative and positive, register in your body. The difference is that positive emotions give you energy and promotes good health; negative emotions rob your energy and your good health.
Jesus tells us to forgive and bless people who we consider to be enemys. Is it possible that he knew then what experts know now?
Experts tell us that “Every emotional response causes a hormonal release of epinephrine, an adrenomedullary response that occurs in response to stress and that is controlled by the sympathetic nervous system.”
A sudden flow of epinephrine causes changes in the body that includes:
- heart rate and blood pressure increase
- pupils dilate to take in as much light as possible
- veins in skin constrict to send more blood to major muscle groups
- blood-glucose level increases
- muscles tense up, energized by adrenaline and glucose
- smooth muscle relaxes in order to allow more oxygen into the lungs
- nonessential systems shut down to allow more energy for emergency functions
- trouble focusing on small tasks
(BTW, these changes are the same as changes that we experience when we are afraid.)
Those people that keep us frustrated, angry and upset all the time are not simply causing problems in our lives but also in our BODIES!
Should you REALLY forgive that person?
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people…errr emotions that destroy us and do much more harm then the people.
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